Why people avoid psychotherapy?

The simple fear of change makes people staying apart from any kind of psychological therapy.

We could say that the greatest human fear is knowing the truth, that is, the truth of who we are, facing what lies within us. But this is really too deep, something that the average human being fails to conceive in general. What runs through every human being is the fear of change, of discovering that what they can see within themselves forces them to leave things behind, to break ties, to see that it is not as they believe, that someone knows more about them than they do. do. That creates insecurity, makes the being feel defenseless, without weapons, without armor, showing their greatest weaknesses and on top of that, being forced to change. Remember that the constant search for life is not change, but stability, even if it is achieved due to the adaptation of change. The only real constant is change, and therefore, the search in said constant are the moments of season, stability. For this reason, when a person achieves stability, or what they believe to be stability, on a physical, emotional or mental level, whether from an attitude, an attachment or a belief, they cling to that as the greatest anchor to remain present and on track, in balance, fearing facing the weakness that comes with letting go, losing security, control over their life.

But not only the therapy itself creates avoidance, people are terrified by the psychologist(therapist) as well!!!

At its core, the fear of psychology stems from a deep-seated resistance to change and self-discovery. But this fear often extends beyond the practice itself—it becomes directed toward psychologists as people. When someone learns about a psychologist’s profession, they may instinctively distance themselves, afraid that their inner truths might be revealed or judged.

This reaction comes from the fear of vulnerability. People worry that a psychologist can “see through” their defenses, uncover hidden aspects of their character, or challenge the stability they’ve built in their lives. It’s not just about avoiding therapy; it’s about avoiding the person who represents it.

Yet, psychologists are not there to expose or judge. They create safe spaces where individuals can explore, understand, and grow at their own pace. The key is to remember that fear of being “seen” is often just fear of the unknown—and overcoming it can lead to profound transformation and healing.